Life is short, time flies. We hear it all the time, and yet it doesn't seem to sink in. So many of us still stay stuck in careers we don't like, in relationships that hurt us, in a routine we find boring. Why? Why do we all convince ourselves it's ok to live a life that doesn't excite us??
Life is exciting, it should be!!
It is without pretentiousness that I write all this. I do know I still have so much to learn about life and I might be too young to be giving lessons to you.Trust me, I write this for myself, I post it on my website because I hope that it can help or guide a bit one of you out there.. but this blog is, in fact, for me! For me not to forget what my standards are. For me to have a little reminder of who I am and who I want to be, which is a free and fearless woman.
This morning my 3 and a half years old son insisted on going to school dressed as a T-Rex. He's been wanting to do this for a while and each time I found an excuse "it won't be comfortable", "it's too hot", "it's not Halloween", "we don't go to school in costumes". Today as he was trying to get dressed by himself, he said "my friend was a princess yesterday and I asked my teacher and she said it's okay". I gave him a couple of my usual excuses not to wear his dino costume but he insisted: "the teacher said it's okay!". For some reason these few words made me stop for a minute, I looked at this cute cheeky boy and thought "of course it's okay" and I helped him wear his T-Rex outfit. He doesn't care if that's odd, he doesn't care if other people have different clothes, he doesn't care that he looks different... He thinks he's cool and he's happy.
Kids, they have these two thing us adults lost : Freedom and Fearlessness.
What if we all decided to focus on our lives only, on our happiness only? I'm not talking about being selfish or egocentric I'm talking about letting go of the fear. What if we all stopped worrying about what others might or might not think of us? What if all that mattered was to be a good heartedperson and to live our lives to the fullest? Just imagine for a second, tomorrow the world tells you that you can do anything you want. Your family won't judge, your friends will be encouraging and strangers won't comment. What would you do then?Would you make certain changes? My point is, the only thing that often stops us to start something new is ourselves and the power we give to people around us.
Let's not care anymore about what our surrounding is going to say or think, why should we? Life is too short to worry about being the subject of people's gossips. Set yourself free: Dress the way you want Do the things you find fun Go to the places that bring you joy Be with people that make you feel safe and good. Don't stop dreaming, behind every big or small accomplishments there is a dream. Act, take actions, make that change that you've been wanting to make. Take that risk. Get out of your comfort zone. Stop waiting!!!
Unfortunately, not everybody is at the same point in life. Some people are judgmental and will never find anything wrong with that behaviour. They will talk and comment but what they say about you is none of your business. Stay focused on you and your life because as you become more free and more fearless the people you care for, the ones that matter to you, will follow.
PS: Two of the rules that I try to live by:
-Don't gossip (I'm writing a whole blog about this, it will be up soon). At times it is hard not to get caught in gossips and let's be honest, all of us do gossip at some point in our lives, but really, try not to do it. Be disciplined about it. If you want others to be less judgmental you have to start with yourself.
-Compete with yourself. You are the only person you should want to compete with.Don't try to beat your neighbor or your classmate, your friend or your instagram buddy. The only person you really need to compete with is yourself. Remember that your aim is to become a better and freer version of yourself.